Stop Trying to Fix Your Lovely Self and Do These Things Instead

We identify with labels and diagnose ourselves as a way to understand what’s wrong with us. But what’s wrong with this approach? It creates shame, stigma and doesn’t actually help us heal anything because we believe we are broken. These three simple concepts are my prescription as a Self Diagnoses Expert for moving out of stuck and hopeless and broken into health, happiness and peace of mind.

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When Self-Help Tactics Become Self-Terroristic

Women in toxic love relationships are some of the most self-critical people I know. We set out to improve ourselves by striving, studying, researching and analyzing every little detail which typically leads us straight into self loathing and shame because we feel like we don't measure up. This article discusses what to do about that if it's a regular practice for you or any women you know.

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Cake Crumbs Part III

I am appalled

Grossly appalled

Sick to my stomach, appalled.

Why is it that Colin Kaepernick can get such a hateful response for not choosing to stand for the National Anthem as his way to not stand with what is going on in the United States right now when another player who was charged with sexual assault or domestic violence is paid no attention at all?

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Cake Crumbs Part I

First of all, I wasn’t feeling well that day. My heart was skipping beats, it was hot, I was uncomfortable and worried.  As usual, I packed a lunch for us. When we got there, everything changed the moment he put on his CAPE and hardhat and insisted that I stuff myself into an old jersey of his.

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Opening the Vault to My Cake Walk

In twelve-step recovery meetings, it is discouraged to share “war stories.” In other words, who has been through more hellacious shit in their addiction...There are no gold stars or silver medals for going all the way down or partially down to the bottom because of chemical addiction. Everyone who deals with addiction “gets it without even saying a word,” so war stories are not necessary.  In fact, it sort of feels like glorifying the addiction to me.

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Weak In The Blog

My blogging muscle is weak. Must. Build. Blog. Muscle.

I have so many stories and examples AND they don’t all tie up in a neat little perfect package with a pretty punch line. The moral of the story is not always evident to me. Until, it is.

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Oh Yes He Did!

My ex-husband, whom I divorced 11 years ago purchased the website domain in my name. The one I preferred. He still owns it.

When we broke up he bought www.wendyholthaus.com and threatened to post all of my secrets, lies, and the ugliest pictures he had of me. Nice, huh?

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