We identify with labels and diagnose ourselves as a way to understand what’s wrong with us. But what’s wrong with this approach? It creates shame, stigma and doesn’t actually help us heal anything because we believe we are broken. These three simple concepts are my prescription as a Self Diagnoses Expert for moving out of stuck and hopeless and broken into health, happiness and peace of mind.Read More
Women in toxic love relationships are some of the most self-critical people I know. We set out to improve ourselves by striving, studying, researching and analyzing every little detail which typically leads us straight into self loathing and shame because we feel like we don't measure up. This article discusses what to do about that if it's a regular practice for you or any women you know.Read More
What I learned from Father Seamus in my treatment program from alcoholism and how good his message was as it applies to the Nature of all things.Read More
This blog post is about desiring change in our lives. Have you ever wanted change before change came? How can we best “arrive” to the place we want to be in life?Read More
I am appalled
Sick to my stomach, appalled.
Why is it that Colin Kaepernick can get such a hateful response for not choosing to stand for the National Anthem as his way to not stand with what is going on in the United States right now when another player who was charged with sexual assault or domestic violence is paid no attention at all?
I am boycotting professional sports. And as you know I am a huge basketball and 49er fan!Read More
First of all, I wasn’t feeling well that day. My heart was skipping beats, it was hot, I was uncomfortable and worried. As usual, I packed a lunch for us. When we got there, everything changed the moment he put on his CAPE and hardhat and insisted that I stuff myself into an old jersey of his.Read More
In twelve-step recovery meetings, it is discouraged to share “war stories.” In other words, who has been through more hellacious shit in their addiction...There are no gold stars or silver medals for going all the way down or partially down to the bottom because of chemical addiction. Everyone who deals with addiction “gets it without even saying a word,” so war stories are not necessary. In fact, it sort of feels like glorifying the addiction to me.Read More
I can do rejection.
And you can too.
No one that I know likes to feel rejected. Rejection is hard. It hurts. Sometimes a lot!Read More
My blogging muscle is weak. Must. Build. Blog. Muscle.
I have so many stories and examples AND they don’t all tie up in a neat little perfect package with a pretty punch line. The moral of the story is not always evident to me. Until, it is.Read More
My ex-husband, whom I divorced 11 years ago purchased the website domain in my name. The one I preferred. He still owns it.
When we broke up he bought www.wendyholthaus.com and threatened to post all of my secrets, lies, and the ugliest pictures he had of me. Nice, huh?Read More